My lovely friends daughter has chicken pox and is feeling rather poorly 😦 it reminded me of when I had it as a teenager.
But then I wondered, have my girls ever had chicken pox? Or any other illness for that matter. The very poor and limited medical records that we have for middle girl and baby girl don’t mention anything In fact they don’t mention much at all aside from vaccinations, and we have no records at all for big girl, so I wonder, have they had chicken pox? Tonsilitis? Scarlet fever? Foot and mouth? whooping cough? Or any other common childhood illness?!
Your guess is as good as mine!
I often randomly wonder things, I usually save these breif ‘moments’ for my facebook status, but, well, I guess i’ve shared so much with you guys over the years that it’s only fair that I share my random wonderings too. So, tonight I’m sharing my first random wondering moment, I expect there will be many more of these breif ‘moments’ or shall we say ‘glimpses’ of the inside of my head.
I’m wondering tonight if I’m blessed to have really healthy kids, or if my kids are still hiding their ‘needs’ from us, is this just another ‘symptom’ of their compliance. In 3 years we’ve had nothing more than a few snotty noses and the odd cough. Are they really just THAT healthy?!
Anyway, i’ll leave you with that random thought from my brain, until the next time!
Any Parent will tell you that their sick (secure, well-adjusted) kids are hard work, they whinge, they whine, they want a drink, they don’t want a drink, their head hurts, their tummy hurts, they’re hot, they’re cold, they want a cuddle, they don’t want a cuddle, they need their teddy, but not the one you offer them, they want a blanket but it makes them too hot, they want you to stay with them but they want you to fetch them things to meet their needs as well. They drive you mad with demands, wants, needs and expectations and of course a little bit of milking it for all they can along the way!
Sick compliant insecure traumatized kids are all of those but you wouldn’t know! Dont be fooled in to thinking this is a good thing!
In fact the only way you can tell they’re sick is because they look off colour, or they’ve just vomited all over you, or you can see they’re burning up, or there’s blood gushing from somewhere or bits hanging off. They wont tell you, they wont ask for anything, they’ll deny their illness to the death and drive you insane with the frustration of not knowing the need your expected to meet, or the hurt you need to treat (unless it’s obvious by the gushing blood or detached limb of some description that is!) or the bug you need to starve or the cold you need to feed.
They will not show you their weakness yet they expect you to be the good mummy you promised you were and see through their walls of steel and meet their every need, blindfolded!
I have 3 “fine” children today, 2 of which, are anything but ‘fine’!
My big girl is ill! Yeay!
No I havent gone completely mad, nor am I being really mean. But I am pleased to know that my daughter is sick.
I am elated, because for the first time ever, she told me!
(she has a headache, a small step, but a step none the less)