I’ve so much to catch up with, and I will, soon, I promise, but for now I just wanted to share this with you…….
Baby girl read ‘No Need to Worry Hugless Douglas’ to me tonight, she really enjoys the Hugless Douglas books.
When we came to the end she pointed to this picture and said:
The Family Hat
‘mommy, when you learn to knit you could make this hat and we could tie a string to the top of them all and then we’d never have to worry about getting lost’
She has all the best idea’s………
Big girl is feeling very proud of herself, and I’m feeling very proud of her!
She’s just finished her first ‘proper’ book!
3 years ago she would strop and sulk at the mere thought of reading. I won’t deny it’s taken her some time, I think she started this book around Easter time but she’s finished it, understood it, enjoyed it and is excited to read the next in the series!
Early days but I’m secretly hoping she’ll become a bookworm just like her mummy 🙂
You need to read, The book became a carrot and The Pressure of a carrot for this to make sense.
I set the goal 17 days ago. My big girl is the only one that has managed to be rewarded with her book, it took her 14 days to get her 7 stickers. My middle girl has 6 stickers and my baby girl has 4 but I can’t see them getting any more any time soon judging by the last few days.
They’re behaviour has been awful again, so tonight I’ve put the chart in the bin, seems fairly pointless keeping it.
I’ll just have to find another way to reward the younger two with their new books.
So it seems the carrot was just too much pressure!?
If you didn’t read my previous post The book became a carrot then you need to.
About half an hour after telling the girls all about the new 7 day chart they needed to complete to earn their new books, my middle girl told me a lovely lie, yes another one.
I decided it was best to start the sticker chart the following day giving them time to properly think about it and have the benefit of the whole day to earn their sticker.
By the following morning all 3 girls had presented me with behaviour that would lose their 1st stickers!
So I deferred the sticker chart for a second day, to today.
2 of my girls got their sticker tonight, one did not.
I seem to remember this was the issue we had with sticker charts. The pressure of having to ‘behave’ in order to earn something is too much and instead of promoting good behaviour, it just seems to provoke them in to loosing it as quickly as they can!?
I’ll continue with the chart, but i fear it may become a 70 day chart rather than a 7 day chart.
Something else I’m beginning to wish I hadn’t started.
When will I remember, STICKER CHARTS DO NOT WORK WITH MY KIDS!
The book fair was at school today and the girls have asked all week if they could go. So we did. I let them choose a book each and then helped them choose a better one (ie cheaper one!!) which they were equally as excited with.
We’ve had a truly awful week, behaviour wise so I’m looking for a fix. So I’ve tried sticker charts and they didn’t work. Quite frankly my girls don’t give a stuff about earning a sticker to get a reward.
Then in the car on the way home listening to them talking excitedly about their new book it hit me. The book would make a great carrot, and a carrot they could see, had already chosen and wanted! So when we got home I dropped the bombshell, I drew up a 7 day sticker chart, dug out some gold stickers and told them if they got a sticker each day then they get their new book next Friday. We talked about what they would need to do to earn their sticker and they all agreed it was fair and not too hard.
We’ll see! Check back next week to see if they’ve managed to be in bed without fuss, eat their dinner and not tell lies for a week!