Baby Steps….

Published February 19, 2014 by thefamilyof5

Remember when I blogged about the trouble we were having with baby girl at the previous school. Remember the 13 pairs of tights she cut up in class without being noticed? the food she was able to steel from school bags? The entire sole she picked off her shoe one day in class? Do you also remember how many times the school dismissed it all and even told CAMHS there were no issues? It was a lot wasn’t it.

When we first started at this new school I wont deny thinking ‘here we go again’. To be fair to them though, they had lots of paper work from the previous school and could only go on what they had been told.

There was the shame inducing yellow card incident for lying, the helping herself to someone else’s lunch from their bag (she was polite enough to give them the wrapper though apparently I was told), the numerous tights she again intentionally ruined, the Christmas play saga and a few other things that caused me to think ‘uh oh’!

Well after lots of phone calls and emails to the Ed Psych & School a little ‘help’  from me, school have acknowledged that baby girl has some struggles. I’m not sure we’re totally on the same page yet, but we’re getting there, its a work in progress shall we say. The lines of communication are open and that’s always a great starting point. An IEP has been put in place for baby girl with various steps to support her with some emotional and social aspects i.e turn taking, getting on with her work without support, not being preoccupied by what everyone else is doing etc. She’s  also been enrolled on a ‘Socialising’ group for a few weeks whereby I presume they’ll be attempting to teach/help a small group of children how to ‘play nicely’. I’m not sure any of this will work, because I’m not sure she ‘can’ do any of these things, I suspect she is a ‘cant’ rather than a ‘wont’, but time will tell. It could just be that I haven’t been able to teach her these skills effectively, believe me I’ve tried. 

So overall I’m impressed. Its baby steps, but they’re baby steps in the right direction. I don’t feel like my concerns are being ‘dismissed’ like they were at the last school. They’re being acknowledged, and baby girl is getting the help she needs and that’s all I ever wanted.


12 comments on “Baby Steps….

  • I’m new to your blog so I don’t know all the processes you’ve gone through, but wondering if you’ve had an assessment done by your pediatrician. I’m an ed professional and a mom of a child with special needs and it just seems to me from this one post that might be a route to consider. I know we don’t want to put “labels” on children, and I’m certainly not suggesting anything, but if there is something that can be done to help make socialization easier for your child, even if it’s just teaching baby girl to respect other people’s space, it really does help. The iep can only go so far. There are ao many things that can be done.

    Like I said, I’m new to your blog so I may be far off to my assessment. Please forgive me if I’ve intruded. Just something that immediately popped into my mind as I read this.

    • Thank you for your comment/suggestion, and welcome to my blog, hope you enjoy reading it.

      I saw a pead last year and was refused any sort of referral for baby girl. I decided to contact the organisation that diagnosed big girl’s asd direct and see if they could help. Fortunately they’re a wonderful company and the psychologist remembered me and immediately accepted baby girl without a pead referral. So she’s currently being assessed. No diagnosis may come of it, but at least the assessment process will highlight her area’s of difficulty 🙂

  • I’m glad school have listened to you. Well done getting an IEP for baby girl. I still don’t have one for either of my girls despite CAMHS involvement with both of them. It’s definitely a step in the right direction isn’t it

  • In any context, there’s not much worse than not being taken seriously. So glad to hear that they are hearing you now, and understanding that you know your children better than anyone else (OF COURSE!!)

  • This sentence (or bit of) ‘some emotional and social aspects i.e turn taking, getting on with her work without support, not being preoccupied by what everyone else is doing etc. ‘ could be Boyo.
    Really glad to read that school are slowly getting the hang of things for you. It makes a world of difference1

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