I often find myself trying to find ways to simply explain the differences between parenting an adopted child and parenting a birth child.
I had a ‘light bulb’ moment in the shower the other day (the tranquillity of the shower is really the only place I get to organise my thoughts these days, its the only place I’m ever alone).
My girls learnt independence too soon, they learnt the world was a scary and unpredictable place and the only person they could trust was themselves.
My girls can dress themselves, feed themselves, and keep themselves safe. They can survive, they have survived.
So I ‘just’ (because of course its so easy!! ) have to teach my girls to trust me, believe me, change their view of the world, allow me to take care of them, allow me to keep them safe and depend on me! easy peasy eh!
“Adoption is teaching your child to be dependent whilst other parents are teaching their children independence.”