The average child eats his vegetables because if he doesn’t, his parents will take away his pudding or send him to his room.
The adopted child eats his vegetables, because if he doesn’t, his parents will take him back to foster care.
The average child tell’s her parents when she is not well because she knows they will give her medicine and cuddles.
The adopted child hides her illness and deals with it alone because she doesn’t know what her parents will do if she becomes a burden, maybe they’ll send her back.
The average child tells her parents she loves them, because she does.
The adopted child tells her parents she loves them, because that’s what she’s supposed to do, isn’t it?!
The average child has thoughts and opinions of his own and will share them, sometimes to his parents disapproval.
The adopted child will do, say and be what ever his parents want him to, otherwise they’ll send him back, won’t they?!
This blog was inspired by friends that have recently adopted and they reminded me of those early days and how compliance sucks sometimes!